As parents we often feel this huge burden that we have to be the perfect parent all the time.
Our kids need to eat three square meals a day.
If they’re not at school, we must home school.
Must limit TV watching every day.
We must never loose our cool, and if we do we’re awful parents.
You get the picture. Our expectations as parents are so high for ourselves, that when we fall short we question ourselves on our ability to be a parent.
But you know what? YOU’RE NOT PERFECT.
You are going to make mistakes.
You are going to loose your cool.
You aren’t always going to feed your kids three square meals a day.
You are going to make mistakes. You are going to relive situations and think “I could have handled that better.”
And you know what else?
It’s okay to make mistakes. We all do!
The difference is in how we handle those mistakes. You can either become stagnant and not learn anything. Or you can grow and learn. The choice is all yours.
When we’ve made a mistake that has caused some disconnection with our kids, we can use recognize that mistake, reconcile for it, and work with everyone involved on how to resolve the root of the mistake.
In Positive Discipline we call this the 3 R’s of Recovery. They can help reconnect, grow, and learn together as we overcome mistakes that we make.
Best of all, it involves our children. So they see first hand that mommy and daddy make mistakes too, and you are able to show them how to push through those mistakes to do better next time.
Just remember your child loves you warts and all! You’ve got this.
“There is no such thing as a perfect parent, we are all just doing our best.”